4 Strategies For Keeping It About The Kids In A Divorce Settlement

Guest Post by Emma Sturgis

When you go through a divorce, it’s sometimes hard to put your emotions aside and to think about the things that are the most important. Your kids will see how you react to issues that arise and how you handle the divorce proceedings and the settlement. It’s important to set a good example for your kids and to keep everything about them during the proceedings instead of displaying negativity.

Stay Positive

One of the hardest things that you might have to do is stay positive. Don’t look at your divorce as an end. Think about it as a new beginning. Concentrate on your children, spending time with them and making sure they aren’t thinking about the other parent not being in the home. Take care of the needs that your family has instead of dwelling on the negative actions that have recently taken place.

Hire An Attorney

If you maintain custody of the kids, then you’ll want to file for child support. Hire a good attorney who can fight for you and your children. Make sure any claims are substantiated and any income information is truthfully given to the attorney and the court as the income from both parents will likely be used to determine the amount of support that is awarded. A divorce that isn’t contested could still end up being difficult to get through when money is involved. A divorce attorney, like those at Kelm & Reuter, P.A., is the best option so that your children aren’t put in the middle of a heated debate.

Provide The Essentials

Your children will need clothing, food, and shelter. You deserve at least a portion of the assets that have been built in the marriage. If you are keeping the house, then it will help in making sure the kids have somewhere to live and will help to maintain stability in their lives. Avoid trying to soothe any kind of emotional pain with money, but you want to make sure your kids are cared for financially so that they have what they need. The divorce settlement could go on for a while, especially if the other party doesn’t think that you deserve any money at all, so you need to be prepared to provide what your kids need.


Sometimes, it’s best to negotiate with the other party when it comes to the settlement. Don’t put your children in the middle of the settlement as it can make them feel like they are responsible for the divorce. Come up with a few ideas about ways to make deals with the other party so that each person receives a fair portion of the assets.

Keeping your children out of a divorce settlement is important for their emotional well-being. Ensure that they are cared for and that they have the things that they need. Try to remain positive, doing things with your children that make them feel loved and wanted.

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